time flies when you're being a mum

22 months (or 100 internet years) later...

09 Feb, 2018

I’m back. I think I’m definitely back! I want to write again.

Back in November 2017 I got this same feeling and wrote a post (which I will share below) about not being so scared and all the reasons I should blog. Ironically I was too scared to post it!

But now I have the confidence to get back on the pony (think more beach side donkey than a thorough-bred race-horse – loveable but not so competitive) and write my silly, funny, sad, honest posts again. Whatever I feel compelled to write. But from now on it’s going to be 100% me and no more of this professional blogging stuff…and I’ll write more about why I really stopped blogging in due course.

But for now, I will explain why I’m starting again!

Earlier this week I was corralled by own brain (it had started writing a blog post whenever I went for a dog walk or was doing errands) to write a “coming out post” about my relationship with alcohol. I was then heavily encouraged by my lovely friend Emily (who I met originally through this blog – read her birth story here – and now our sons are besties and in the same school class!) to post this story on Facebook.

I'm back - I quit alcohol

I have felt every wave of emotion this week. From warm fuzzy cuddles via all the lovely comments to utter terror at being so open and vulnerable for all the world to see (oh god, even my postman has ‘liked’ it type feelings). But something about that vulnerability has given me the confidence to get going again.

That, and Emily…

“What’s the next steps then?! Don’t lose your momentum!”

So, Em, this is for you…my thoughts that I should have posted 3 months ago.

I’m Back – November 2017

When I wrote my last post 18 months ago, I didn’t think it would take me this long to decide to blog again. I’ve thought about it a bit but I’ll be honest, it really wasn’t that much. For ages I didn’t think I’d ever feel the urge to write again.

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But last week something changed.

I was lying on the sofa with a cold and feeling pretty miserable. I couldn’t face watching another movie so I decided to do some journalling instead.

This isn’t something I do. For starters I can’t write with a pen anymore! Do you know what I mean? After about 5 minutes my hand cramps up and the words become unintelligible. That’s probably fortunate because I also can’t spell.

Anyway, I sat and wrote some stuff. 3 whole pages of stuff! And, when I came back to reread it, I liked what I read. It brought clarity to my thoughts, the ones that normally swim around my head in a random fashion.

The next day I was poking around on Pinterest and came across an article called “what living a simple life has taught me“. It really made me think about my life, what I spend my time doing and what I’m interested in. So I wrote some more stuff.

I realised I have no hobbies beyond reading diet and self-help books!

I have so much opportunity around me and I just don’t make the most of it.

This naturally brought me to blogging.

I used to love blogging.

Reading things (diet and self-help books, of course) and then sharing my take.

Making little videos.

Trying to take decent photos.

Documenting my projects.

It motivated me to get things done and try new ideas. Even if I sucked at them.

I realised that the only reason I’m not blogging is because I’m scared of what people will think of me.

That’s a pretty dumb thing to be scared of.

All I can be is myself and not everyone can like me. PLUS NO ONE REALLY CARES!!

(While looking for a no-one cares quote I came across this fantastic article, No one Cares, So Do What You Want. Sums up and quashes my fears perfectly!)

So, I did a pros and cons of blogging.

The pros list was a hell of a lot longer.

Cons involved things like having to make some space on my hard drive because my laptop is full. I believe that’s just called laziness?

I have so much to gain from blogging

From motivation, to clarity of thoughts, to connecting with my friends, to accountability.

And, I realised that I’ve missed it.

There’s so much that I’ve forgotten (up until an hour ago I’d forgotten how to even put up a post) but I can relearn along the way.

For now I want to do some writing and to put it in my husband, Mike’s words ‘nothing bad can come from writing’.

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Blog break!

30 Apr, 2016

Hello there! Thank you so much for stopping by my blog.

At the moment I am taking a break from writing Mums’ Days but please do explore the 750 articles I have written here over the last 4 (+) years!

I started Mums’ Days when I was pregnant, so you’ll find articles relating to pregnancy, health and fitness, the new born months and much more as I’ve explored my new role as a mother. Hopefully you’ll find something that tickles your fancy!

Taking a break

Anyone who blogs (professionally or otherwise) will tell you that blogging is brilliant and exhausting!

I’ve decided to take a break as we’ve recently been through some big changes as a family and I’ve been doing some soul searching to get my head around it all (I did an online course called Life with Intention by my favourite podcaster, Jess Lively! I’d highly recommend it if you can get on it).

I realised that I’ve lost sight of what it is I want to do with my life. What truly gives me meaning, a purpose and makes me happy. I’ve been allowing blogging (namely stats, my tots100 score and likes on Facebook, etc…) to define me and my sense of self worth, and it is a recipe for never feeling good enough.

About a month ago I was completely done with it all. But I’ve had some time off and I’ve started to miss it, so I don’t think this is going to be a forever break anymore.

For the next couple of months I’m going to basically hibernate away from the internet so that I can focus on Reuben (can you believe this is his last term before he starts school? He’s not 4 until August. Sob!!), do some gardening and reading.

If you’d like to get in touch with me, you can do so on hannah@mumsdays.com.

Thanks for all your support!

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Let me tell you my tale of laser hair removal…

24 Mar, 2016

Do you remember when you were a kid and you used to see the big girls at school and want to be them?

laser hair removal with Saks Beauty in Gosforth

They were always so cool, calm and collected, and gorgeous. So, you’d buy Just 17 and wear your hair just so and buy ridiculous clothing (just me? Kudos to my mum for letting me express myself, that must have taken restraint).

Well, I don’t think I’ve ever grown out of that. I remember at about 21 I saw some chic looking women (in New York) with deep pink nail varnish and as soon as I got back into that departure lounge I made a beeline for the beauty counter to find the exact shade. Chanel, of course. I thought it would make me look cool and NYC chic too.

Fast forward to 32 and I still have friends a few years older than me that I hope I’ll be like when I “grow up”.

I’ll have great hair and overall be much better presented.

One particular thing that has stuck with me over the years of knowing these friends was a particular conversation about bikini lines….

I was going for yet another excruciatingly painful bikini wax whilst pregnant, which is one of the most painful things (aside from labour) that I’ve ever been through, and my friend said, “You know, laser is the way forward.”

Well, it’s stuck with me, always something on the beauty to-do list that will transform me into one of my glamorous friends. I will exude confidence when I no longer have fuzz poking out the side of my swimming costume during an impromptu swim with the kids.

And, never has laser been more needed – since giving birth, waxing has become too much to bare (pun intended and I wrote about my waxing revolt here), so things have become a bit unkempt, shall we say?

As a slight aside, I do know really that I will never be “put together” in the way I’d like to be and I’m OK with that, it’s probably why my friends like me in the first place. Maybe a bit of goofy goes a long way?

Laser Hair Removal with Saks

But that didn’t stop me jumping at the chance to finally give it a go when Saks Beauty in Gosforth approached me to try out a course of laser hair removal in my nether regions!

I knew they had some of the best equipment in the area (it costs them a fortune to maintain but it has the best results in the quickest time, so it’s really worth the investment), so if anyone was going to ‘have at it’, it was going to be them.

After a quick phone call where I asked the owner, Nic, a million stupid questions (“can we do all 6 treatments in a week?” “No, hunny, you need 6 to 8 weeks between sessions”), we were ready to go.

All you have to do before your appointment is to shave the places where you don’t want hair to grow anymore (you may need the lawnmower to begin with).

I arrived to a really warm welcome and Nic immediately put me at ease. Which was good because shortly after she was face to face with my intimates. About 5 minutes and a few zaps later (a bit like being twanged by an elastic band), I was done. And I could walk out perfectly comfortably.

This was new.

I was used to leaving a salon John Wayne style, wincing in pain!

Since then (it’s been about 7 weeks), I’ve been diligently shaving the area. The only issue I’ve had was a bit of irritation to begin with from shaving. But with some post shaving cream (I’ve got some The Cool Fix Targeted Gel Lotion, which is awesome) it’s been sorted out a treat.

Already, after only 1 session, I can tell that the hairs have drastically changed! I’m telling you this is the way forward.

Perhaps, once I’m hair-free and confident of no further swimming costume capers, I’ll be able to turn my attention to more items on my beauty to-do list!

Laser Hair Removal Costs…

A single laser hair removal treatment on your nethers at Saks Beauty in Gosforth costs £45 and you will need between 3 to 6 treatments, and maybe the occational one or two after having another baby or any other hormonal changes.

To put this into context in contrast to Waxing…

The difference between a lifetime of waxing (£250/year for 20 years is £5000!) compared to a course of laser hair removal treatments (£270 for 6, plus the odd one here and there) – you’re looking at a saving of £4730.

Winner!

Give Nic a call on 0191 340 0420 and she’ll see you right.

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...sneaky veggies for your fussy eaters!

09 Mar, 2016

This is a delicious, nutritious Spaghetti Bolognese recipe with a twist…hidden veggies!

Hidden Vegetables Spaghetti Bolognese Recipe

I’m all for introducing whole vegetables to my fussy eater.

I wrote about how we’ve been using a sticker chart with some success to get from NO VEGGIES to licking a pea to eating a carrot, and I think a love of veg is hugely important. I am their biggest fan.

But the going is slow and in the mean time, sometimes (especially on a school night or after a busy week) I just need an easy win and to know my fussy boy is getting something really good and wholesome inside him.

Hence this Spaghetti Bolognese recipe with hidden veg!

Spaghetti Bolognese Recipe with Hidden Veg

Here’s a quick 1 min video to give you an idea of what’s involved and scroll down for full recipe details…

 

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Bunny Onesie up for grabs...

08 Mar, 2016

After the huge success of the Valentines Competition with The All in One Company, I have cheekily asked if they would also like to do an Easter 2016 competition with us and they have kindly said YES!

The All in one company Easter Bunny Onesie Competition

I am still completely in love with my onesie and although Spring may be nearly here, I can’t see me not putting it on in the early hours (thank you, Reuben, for the unwanted wake up call) for quite some time yet!

And, with an early Easter, what could be better than seeing your little ones running around collecting eggs in a cosy bunny onesie?! I can’t wait for Reuben’s to arrive, I’m already planning a special video to show it off!

Win your very own Easter 2016 All-in-One!

In the meantime, for your chance to win your very own easter bunny onesie (up to £100 to spend on your design – and it doesn’t have to be a bunny if you’d prefer something else!) please enter the competition below.

a Rafflecopter giveaway

 

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